This is just a post for those of you who know what it is like to have another baby. Or maybe it was super easy for you.
Things I love about having 2 kids:
- I love to see how much Paige loves "her baby."
- They are both amazing and so good looking!
- They make my heart happy
- I feel more complete as a family - weird I know
- I love them!
Things that are very different and perhaps hard:
- I have no idea how to balance two
- I feel guilty all the time for not being able to meet all of their needs
- I did not anticipate getting the flu, mastitis, and other things that are not fun while recovering
- How do you people go out with two? I tried...with Chad too...woah its rough!
- EMOTIONS or HORMONES...yeah they are not fun and I thought I would not have them as badly as I did with Paige...I do, they are just a little different.
So I think I would be doing better if I did not have a lot of problems that have happened since having him. The flu has been the worst part. I have made Chad come home to take care of everyone. He has been my life saver for sure. I have felt that I cannot provide for my children like I took care of just Paige. I do know though that it will only get better and I will get through it like I did when I had Paige. It is quite an adjustment for me and if anyone has tips on going out, I could use them. I am not one who likes to just stay home. I have to get out to keep my sanity, but that is hard to keep when going out is too hard! Oh boy!
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Just be patient with yourself! I always made sure that at bedtime, Logan got some alone Mommy time! My friend also suggested when you are feeding the baby, you have a bucket of "special" toys that Paige can play with while you are busy! That way she feels like it's a cool time...not a drag! Good luck! It gets easier!
Pleased to report it is getting easier. I just made a successful outing to COSTCO!! Hurray. I'm quite proud. I think that we will need to go on lots of walks (and relive the early days of Seth and Paige:). Walks are a life saver for me. They cost nothing, but I feel like I am getting out. Oh, a tip (as if I really have any): while I have been feeding Emery I have had Seth pick out books and we read them together while she eats. It has made feeding her less of a bother to Seth. It is getting better. It is totally weird how it does make you feel more complete as a family.
I remember my first outing with two kids. I went to a copy center to get some copies made and I was so proud of myself:) It does get easier! We spent a lot of time at the park...I would just strap Kya in the baby carrier and then I could help Jordan and follow her around. I remember nursing at the park A LOT...something I never really did when I just had one:) Hang in there, they grow up so fast!!
I am sure you are doing a great job! Don't be so rough on yourself. It is super hard taking care of kids when you yourself aren't feeling well! I loved my front pack when I took the two kids out for the first six months. Then Kylie was happy because she was next to me and I still had both hands to help McKinley. Go places that are simple and easy- the park, walks, a friend's house. Anyway, you are great Brittany and I hope you get feeling better. Getting the schedule with two kids is hard- I remember feeling off balance for a few months and then feedings, naps, etc all fall into a schedule making things a lot easier!
I hear ya! Not easy. Sometimes I feel bad because my attention is so divided, and I can't give either of them all my attention. I have learned it helps to try and give them all my attention individually. i.e. while she naps I play with him, or while he watches a movie I snuggle with her, etc). Forget going anywhere by myself yet! I went to the park. but that's as adventurous as I'll get right now. I'm so sorry you've been sick--you've had it a lot worse than me there. We all got little colds, but that's it. Good luck! And yes, they are both adorable!
Oh, the guilt! I had it so bad at first. I would just cry because I felt so bad that Mas was bored and not getting enough attention. Oh, how it gets better. I will admit, Mas watched alot of PBS when i was feeding all of the time at the beginning...and you know what, he is doing great. It is so the way it is supposed to be. It is how first children learn that there are others besides them and learn patience. Sometimes, I would just lie on the floor with baby, just so Mason felt like we were "there" even if I wasn't all there and playing and stuff. Going out.. hmmm...also lots of nursing at the park, I don't even care anymore. It just takes way longer, but really it doesn't seem much harder than one anymore. It just becomes the norm. You will so get there and really soon too. Just remember that the first 3 months of every baby are just hard and you have to just endure. So excited for you guys~
You poor thing. How horrible to get the flu and mastitis on top of having to adjust with all the crazy hormones that come with it and trying to learn how to juggle 2 kids. I really can't complain now with just not getting a lot of sleep.
Something that has really been my lifesaver so far is my new double stroller. I get the kids out to the car in it and if I'm going to a store to shop and I don't have too much to buy I just bust out my stroller again. I know a stroller is probably harder to get your kids to the car with all those stairs the Meadows has, but like everyone says, it does start to get easier little by little.
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