Saturday, September 12, 2009
What happened?
Yesterday, Paige woke up a completely different child. I thought she was already in her prime terrible twos. Boy was I wrong!!! All day this is what we got "NOOOOO!", "I DON"T CARE!", "I DON'T KNOW!" Really? Really? What the heck has happened? After I put her to bed (quite early I might add) I told Chad that I think I had done a lot of things throughout the day that I said I did not like doing. That consisted of yelling at her and demanding she do things. I do not yell normally because I hate it. Obviously it is not effective. So after some re-evaluation of our parenting skills we have decided that this just simply cannot happen. I will not yell or demand. Of course I know she is still 2 and will continue to go through these wonderful phases of life, but it all comes back to how I parent her. I might add that I have never wanted to spank my child so badly, but yes I witheld on that one because I will not succumb to that. Any strategies and or tips from the parents who have gone through this? I feel completely helpless and like I am a horrible parent because my child will not listen to me!
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Wait until you have two...that's when I started yelling. It's so tough!!! It seems like something different works with each child...the hard part is finding out what that is. I did read Parenting with Love and Logic that was really helful. It talked about giving your child choices...but the tricky part is giving choices that both get the end result you want...anyways, you should read it, it's a great book. But mostly it's just trial and error around here. Paige is so sweet whenever we are around, I can't imagine her being a terrible two:0)
Don't beat yourself up about yelling. I do it occasionally myself, even though I hate to. You should commend yourself for not spanking. I totally agree about not spanking but there are many parents who give in to that urge. There are plenty of alternatives to spanking. With Noah, we tried putting him in his room, time out chair and counting to 3. None of those worked. What did work was timeouts with his face in the corner. Every child responds to different kinds of discipline. It's just a matter of trial and error. And when it's the worst I just put the kids in their rooms, leave the house and sit on the porch until I can calm down. Hang in there mommy!
Oh, you are fine! Not that I am amazing, but I just started a job chart for McKinley because I was constantly nagging her! She gets to put a stamp on each thing she accomplishes each day- going potty, getting dressed, cleaning up toys, putting the silverware away, being nice to Kylie, reading scriptures, feeding her fish, bath, and teeth. Anyway, she really wants a Barbie so after finishing a week's worth of the job chart she can get one. Anyway, maybe that would work for Paige and you wouldn't have to yell at her for little things, just remind her about the stamp, or sticker, and her prize. You are awesome Brittany!!
I'm certainly no expert and boy have we had our moments.
But if you like getting advice from books, I just finished reading Love and Logic as well as Playful parenting. Two different approaches, but very practical and extremely helpful!
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